May's deal is basically putting a half-border in the Irish sea and half-exits the EU... until a better solution can be found. You can see why this didn't go well with DUP and the hardcore Brexiters.
The no-deal Brexit is basically a hard border in Ireland, with all the risks that implies. Never mind the economic shock, which is not depicted in the trilemma chart. Adding that would make it a quadrilemma.
And yes, I suck at this: