When it comes to Pakistan, I guess it will be an understatement to say that Indian response is passive. Both infiltrators as well as the Pakistan army backing them have suffering casualties on daily basis. And it getting even more aggressive now. Without even going into the rhetoric or cross border surgical strike, its pretty evident that India is giving a befitting reply. Now taking it to next level would mean a fifth war amongst the arch rivals. With possibilities of it turning into a nuclear conflict India exercises certain restraints.
Now when it comes to China, yes its true India's response is passive but it a clever tactic and I quote PM Modi' recent statement "Not a single bullet has been fired between the two nation". I guess that pretty much sums it up. We are competing economies with both aggressively upgrading their arsenal and time again due to the border sharing some conflicts do arise. India however has positioned itself well to handle the heat from the dragon. After all its not like we are in 1962 any-more.